How to Tell Them Thanks but No Thanks

Recently a bride had approached us about photography and how she had someone offering to do her pictures for free but she didn’t want that person to do them. This got us to thinking that there maybe many of you out there who have or are in the same situation. It may not just be brides it could be any big event you have coming up, like your family reunion or you just want to get some pictures taken because you haven’t in a while. So you talk about it to your family or friends and suddenly someone offers to do the pictures because they have a nice camera. You don’t want them to take them, because you want a trained professional, but they are insistent that their camera is really nice and takes nice pictures. How do you tell them no, without ruining the relationship?

First off, let me remind you that it’s your wedding day, reunion, family pictures or whatever and you have every right to have the person you choose to take the pictures.

Second, I will also remind you that having a nice camera does not make a person a photographer. Anyone can spend a bunch of money on a camera, but that doesn’t mean they know what they are doing. Remember, you get what you pay for when it comes to letting friends or family do your pictures.

That being said, I know it’s hard to tell them no and you don’t want to hurt feelings. So, I will give you a list of reasons/excuses you can use to politely tell them no.

  1. You already have a photographer
  2. You want them to be able to enjoy the event, rather than have to work through it. (this works especially well for weddings)
  3. Because they are so close to you, you could never ask them to do all that work when you just want them to have fun and celebrate with you.
  4. You love their pictures, and would like them to take some of (your dog, kid, house, whatever) but for this, you’d rather get someone who does it for a living.
  5. You appreciate the offer, but your future in-laws already have someone (this may or may not be true, but can work in a pinch)

In general, just remember that it’s your day and your pictures and you want them to be the best they can be. Anyone who truly wants you to be happy will understand and while they may be disappointed, they will get over it. If they don’t, you probably don’t need them around anyway.

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